This week we discussed stress. Unfortunately myself and my baby (Hayden) have a viral infection, so I wasn't able to attend today's class about coping with stress. We discussed the stress model which is:
A- stressors and hardships
B- management of stress
C- family's definition of situation
X- outcome (could be long term)
When a stress or hardship occurs in the family each family member can define it differently, therefore cope with it differently. How you manage and define the stressor determines the outcome. We can decide to manage and define a stressor in a more positive light and the outcome would be more positive.
Thursday, June 16, 2011
Week 7
Warning: This post will discuss things that may not be too appropriate for children.
This week we discussed sexual intimacy. We discussed what the reasons behind sexual intimacy are. Which are, initiate parenthood, strengthen marriage relations, and symbol of unity. We also discussed what needs to happen in intimacy. In 1 Corinthian 7:1-7 it says that we're all entitled to kindess- due benevolence. My professor said, "As you're carefully attending to each other's needs, that's the best kind of love making there is." Sexual intimacy is one of two main reason people get divorced. Couples are not focusing on each others needs like they should, which can lead to a lot of problems. I can see how this could be a problem in any facets of life. If we always feel like our spouse is only focusing on themselves and thinking of their wants and needs it could be easy to be offended or hurt by this.
We also discussed what we would like to teach our children. Some of the things that I would like to teach our children would be 1. What their bodies are about (bodily responses). 2. When it's appropriate. 3. How children are created. 4. That it's sacred.
This week we discussed sexual intimacy. We discussed what the reasons behind sexual intimacy are. Which are, initiate parenthood, strengthen marriage relations, and symbol of unity. We also discussed what needs to happen in intimacy. In 1 Corinthian 7:1-7 it says that we're all entitled to kindess- due benevolence. My professor said, "As you're carefully attending to each other's needs, that's the best kind of love making there is." Sexual intimacy is one of two main reason people get divorced. Couples are not focusing on each others needs like they should, which can lead to a lot of problems. I can see how this could be a problem in any facets of life. If we always feel like our spouse is only focusing on themselves and thinking of their wants and needs it could be easy to be offended or hurt by this.
We also discussed what we would like to teach our children. Some of the things that I would like to teach our children would be 1. What their bodies are about (bodily responses). 2. When it's appropriate. 3. How children are created. 4. That it's sacred.
Monday, June 6, 2011
Week 6
This week we discussed transitions in marriage. It reminded me of the transitions that I experienced when I got married. There are lots of transitions in marriage. The biggest and hardest transition that I dealt with was dealing with the adjustment of being alone. I grew up with five siblings, so there was always a lot going on in our house and I was rarely home alone. Once I got married there was only the two of us. So when my husband would be at work I would be at home alone and bored out of my mind. My husband worked A LOT and would have to work until 1 or so in the morning. I also grew up in a town where my whole extended family lived and we were all really close. My husband and I lived in Rexburg for the first year of our marriage and neither of us have any family living in Rexburg or even close to Rexburg. It was a HUGE adjustment to be home alone most of the time and not having any family near. I learned that I really had to keep myself busy and cling to my husband. Because I got so used to only having my husband (and friends) around, even now three years later I find myself still depending on my husband not my family anymore. I think this helped me to learn to depend on my husband and not my parents and family.
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